adakah yg berbaek hati mau memberi saya rujukan dari alkitab ttg hal ini? bisa jadi orang2 yg "sulit"ini adl keluarga (suami,istri, orang tua, sodara, pacar_ atau atasan, teman, dll.
atau mungkin ada yg mau sharing dari pengalaman pribadinya ttg cara2 efektif menghadapi mereka?

"sulit" disini : sulit dikasih tau, maunya menang sendiri, seneng ngejelek-jelekin orang, atau perilaku sejenisnya. mungkin terkesan menghakimi kalau dibilang "sulit" tapi mereka itu kan nyata, ada disekitar kita? (jgn2 seorang red_conjurer adalah seorang yg sulit juga :P )

bantu yah prend....

difficult people? emang ada yah bahasa begini? :o mustinya "org yang berkepribadian buruk" :)

Originally posted by red_conjurer
adakah yg berbaek hati mau memberi saya rujukan dari alkitab ttg hal ini? bisa jadi orang2 yg "sulit"ini adl keluarga (suami,istri, orang tua, sodara, pacar_ atau atasan, teman, dll.
atau mungkin ada yg mau sharing dari pengalaman pribadinya ttg cara2 efektif menghadapi mereka?

"sulit" disini : sulit dikasih tau, maunya menang sendiri, seneng ngejelek-jelekin orang, atau perilaku sejenisnya. mungkin terkesan menghakimi kalau dibilang "sulit" tapi mereka itu kan nyata, ada disekitar kita? (jgn2 seorang red_conjurer adalah seorang yg sulit juga :P )

bantu yah prend....

yg paling penting sih SABAR.
klo misalnya dianya udah ngomongnya keras gitu, kita jgn balesin dg keras juga, tapi bales dg suara kita yg tetep lemah lembut, alhasil akan tercapai suatu solusi yg baik.

'n juga jgn berpegang pada anggapan, 'saya yg paling benar', tapi cobalah menempatkan posisi kita di posisi dia. Dg begitu kita bisa merasakan apa yg dia rasakan, 'n juga bisa mendapatkan solusi yg terbaik utk mengatasi suatu masalah

Originally posted by Feud
difficult people? emang ada yah bahasa begini? :o mustinya "org yang berkepribadian buruk" :)

yah, gw sering juga denger istilah begini difficult people istilah untuk orang yang susah diajak kerjasama, diskusi, orang yg tdk punya toleransi, orang yg gampang marah, berkepribadian buruk seperti yg loe tulis, ..........dst

kalo ketemo orang yg begini, biasanya gw menghindar aja, case close! ........... :)

Originally posted by Feud
difficult people? emang ada yah bahasa begini? :o mustinya "org yang berkepribadian buruk" :)

kata difficult aja udah terkesan menghakimi apalagi kalo saya gunakan kata berkepribadian buruk.

Originally posted by qbiz


yah, gw sering juga denger istilah begini difficult people istilah untuk orang yang susah diajak kerjasama, diskusi, orang yg tdk punya toleransi, orang yg gampang marah, berkepribadian buruk seperti yg loe tulis, ..........dst

kalo ketemo orang yg begini, biasanya gw menghindar aja, case close! ........... :)

tapi sampe kapan ?

:hehe nikmati sajah...!
jangan menghindar..!
ituw pelajaran hidup
biar lebih berpengalaman

dalam menjalani hidup ini kita akan menemui berbagai macam tipe org, ada org yg asyik2 ( cocok ama kita ) ada juga org yg kagak asyik (tidak cocok ama kita ).
Menurut gue :
Paling enak kalo org disekitar kita semua nurut ama kita,tapi itu kayaknya TIDAK mungkin. saran gua BERIKANLAH teladan dalam SIKAP dan TINGKAH LAKU loe ,kayak TIMOTIUS (kalo tidak salah inget) TOKOH alkitab jgn seorang pun menggap engkau RENDAH karena engkau MUDA tetapi jadilah teladan dalam TINGKAH LAKU mu, sukur2 mereka bisa melihat jadi TERGUGAH dengan SIKAP LOE saran gua perbanyak TINGKAH LAKU yg BAIK tidak perlu marah dan BENCI easy going aja . lagian toh mereka ORG TERDEKAT LOE yg seharusnya loe sayangi :)

red_conjurer,.. maunyah gimanah?

supaya orang itu berubah?

atau supaya red_conjurer, bisa enak adaptasinyah ?

untuk urusan orang sulit seh point2 yg bisa gw berikan :

1. kita2 juga jangan lah beranggapan bahwa kita ini paling penah , paling suci ,.. dst
2. merubah orang itu yang bisa cuman Tuhan ... yang kita bisa lakukan hanya "beradaptasi" :)
3. usahakan jangan pernah terbelenggu enegry negatif yg disebabkan oleh rasa jengkel, marah , keki,dongkol ,dst
4. usahain selalu melihat segala sesuatunya make teknik 2 sisi mata uang,.. balikin jika misalnya posisi loe ada di dia , gemana rasanya , gemana rasanya misalnya ngak disenengin orang2 , di ngak ngerti in orang 2 , dst

btw, ngasih contoh lebih baik dare pada 1000 nasehat :D

Originally posted by kizut
4. usahain selalu melihat segala sesuatunya make teknik 2 sisi mata uang,.. balikin jika misalnya posisi loe ada di dia , gemana rasanya , gemana rasanya misalnya ngak disenengin orang2 , di ngak ngerti in orang 2 , dst

setuju ::bravo::

ini gw ada cuplikan cerita bagus, dimana ada seseorang yg selalu melihat segala sesuatu dari sisi yg positif :) :

Jerry is the manager of a restaurant in America. He is always in a good mood
and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he
was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed
jobs,so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant.The
reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude.
He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad
day, Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the
positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and
asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time.
How do you do it?" Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself,
I have two choices today.
I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood.
I always choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose
to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it.
Everytime someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their
complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose
the positive side of life."
"But it's not always that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is,"Jerry said
"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation
is a choice. You choose how you react to situations.
You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood
or bad mood. It's your choice how you live your life."
Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you
are never supposed to do in the restaurant business: left the back door of
his restaurant open one morning and was robbed by three armed
men. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness
slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. After 18
hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the
hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he
was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind
as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the
back door," Jerry replied. "Then, after they shot me, as I
lay on the floor, I remembered that I had twochoices: I could choose to live
or choose to die.I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared?" I asked. Jerry continued, "The paramedics were
great.They kept telling me. I was going to be fine. But when they
wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expressions on the
faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I
read'He's a dead man.' I knew I need to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions
at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything."
'Yes,'I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited
for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their
laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I
am alive, not dead'."
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his
amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day you have the
choice to either enjoy your life or to hate it.
The only thing that is truly yours that no one can control or take from
you-is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything
else in life becomes much easier.

Hebat ya si Jerry :bravo:

Originally posted by ReD_PhOeNiX
Hebat ya si Jerry :bravo:

yoi bro :D

wah2 terima kasih banyak atas masukan2nya dan ceritanya yg membesarkan hati.
ini pelajaran berharga buat saya.
thx untuk kizut todiq monx josh cs..

Originally posted by red_conjurer
wah2 terima kasih banyak atas masukan2nya dan ceritanya yg membesarkan hati.
ini pelajaran berharga buat saya.
thx untuk kizut todiq monx josh cs..

sama2x om :D

eh iye ..... sama pak.... :D

bunuh mereka (difficult ppl), minta ampun dosa, tunggu dihukum mati, pasrah :hehe